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Changing Limiting Beliefs

Lately I’ve been accepting how I’ve actually been feeling lately. I’ve been down since I moved here. Which is surprising to me, because I was so excited to move to the city, that I wouldn’t even admit to myself how I’ve actually been feeling. I’ve been so broke lately. And hating my job. I know I need to spend some time looking for a new job. Yet there are only so many hours in the day. Tomorrow I can look? Yet I wanted to make more money tomorrow too… I’m definitely going to brunch in the morning. After that, we’ll see.

On to an important topic that has been coming to my attention lately that I need to fix. I have these 2 major beliefs/reoccurring thoughts that I need to change lately. One: A belief that I am not good enough for others. And two: A constant worry that someone doesn’t like me. I want to get rid of these two issues in my life. There is a constant theme in my life of not feeling good enough, issues with self-esteem, etc. I want need to change this about myself. It is time. I am 29 years old. I need to get over this. I look at these other people in my life, and I think how they don’t seem to struggle like I do. So if these thoughts predominate my life, then how can I get out of the habit? What do I do to get out of the habit? Say a thought comes up again. What do I tell myself to start to change this pattern of thinking? “oh, I think this person doesn’t like me, bc they did this….” then how do I go about changing these thoughts?

Stay tuned…

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Noticing my lack of Self Worth

I was looking at doctors online, and I looked at one doctor, and I had this thought, what if she gets upset when her patients and their families get mad at her, and she accepts them getting mad at her, as opposed to another doctor who might not even accept their patients getting upset with them, who might not internalize it per se.

And it made me think of how I get upset when my clients in therapy get mad at me or don’t think I’m doing a good job. I want to be like the people who would never be upset at clients being upset with them. Who would never take it personally. I was thinking when I saw the doctor online and thought that she might take things personally (just a random thought of mine, I don’t know her at all), and I thought, but she’s a doctor, why would she accept that? And the same is true for me as a therapist, I’m (going to be soon) a therapist, why would I accept my clients being upset with me? I want to figure this out and rise above it. If I look at a doctor and think they don’t deserve it, then I don’t deserve it either, right? We are both in our respective professions. Will I ever not accept bad treatment? Do I need to have some kind of epiphany? Some breakthrough to realize something? I guess it’s a good first step that I recognize it is happening and that I want to change it.

On an unrelated matter, I should look into seeing a therapist myself. Someone outside of school that my health insurance would cover, someone good! I should look into that…

 

 

New Plan

Ugh. Getting everything out rn. Feeling so frustrated lately. Feeling unhappy off and on. Feel crabby. It’s 11:43pm, still kinda early (for me…).

I have been obsessing over my looks again… I need to just learn to let shit go? Been hanging out with friends a lot lately, and yes it’s been fun, mostly. I just have been bringing myself down by obsessing over my looks. Obsessing over not looking exactly how I want to look. I feel broken.

I was thinking about this guy I used to like (if you’ve read my previous posts, you probably know who I’m talking about…), and I was thinking how perfect I think he is, and wondering how he thinks of himself. I was imagining just telling him how perfect he is, and that he should just accept it about himself. But then I was thinking, “what if someone thought that about me?”

Again, I feel like I’m broken.

I wish I could accept myself how I am without thinking I need to be better somehow. I feel like my head is too small. I have these weird thoughts of thinking my energy needs to be “clearer”. I wish I could just LOVE and APPRECIATE myself where I am at. Some days are better than others. Since moving to Boston, it’s been rough for me. The transition was hard. Now that I’ve made new friends and am establishing myself more, it’s been a little better. Maybe I should write more. I used to write a lot. Maybe my expectations have gotten out of whack. Maybe my expectations about everything and especially anything to do with myself, are out of whack. Like why should I tell myself I should look like a supermodel. Not everyone does. It’s such an unloving thing to tell myself. I should just love myself how I am. It’s so easy to love others for who they are, and appreciate their uniqueness. Yet why is it so hard for me to love myself? Accept myself the way I am. Not feel like when someone rejects me like it’s because I’m not good enough. When that guy rejected me, I really felt like I wasn’t good enough for him, like that’s why he rejected me. I wasn’t pretty enough, glowy enough, social enough, charming enough, popular enough… the list goes on. Maybe I’m just projecting that onto him, however, considering the law of attraction, doesn’t that mean then that I can’t possibly attract someone who think the world of me, if I don’t think that about myself? Although, I did it before…

So anyway, I need to stop this problem of thinking I don’t look good enough: maybe I can actively point out the positives, choose to accept the things I don’t like as much. Accept and focus on positives, new plan.